I think that speculation is a statement that is not based on evidence. Speculation at this time is negative, and comes mostly from momentary emotions.
In the process of development, during the time of study and work, I have seen that the form of speculation is quite diverse. But the core is still the negativity that it causes.
Recently, the traditional Chinese medicine doctor changed the acupuncture schedule for my grandmother to the afternoon. When my grandfather heard about it, he said that “it was probably because he stayed up late last night to bet on football and couldn’t get up in the morning”. He has no things tobe sure that. So, I’ve been thinking about this topic for a few days.
1. Introspection
This classification is relative, based on my personal opinion. I also often have this type of internal speculation. Specifically, at that time, emotions dominate all reason, so when I hear something, my mind immediately forms unfounded conjectures. These unfounded conjectures are the most dramatic that my imagination allows.
Only the above thoughts are not spoken out, only the thoughts are kept in the head. I’m sure it’s not just me, but many people are the same.
It can be seen as a reflex of the brain’s information processing. The good thing about this type of internal speculation is that the information is not shared, so the damage if any is not great. To say that is to mean that they are not completely harmless.
Because if we are too carried away and indulge in those speculations. In the long run, it will create our nature; hasty judgment, dictatorship, and petty spirit.
So is there any way to get rid of the bad habit above? Surely it must be to self-cultivate morality, read books to broaden one’s vision. Learn how to argue.
And the most important thing is to pay attention to the right topic. That is, only talk about things related to you, and limit paying attention to the affairs of the world.
2. Speculation within groups/organizations
When a group of people gather together, or in each organization, smaller groups will naturally form. Simply because people with common interests (material/spiritual) will be attracted to each other.
The difference in interests and lifestyles will create judgment between each person, between departments. The more people, the more trouble.
And also because of group interests, or simply because of the lack of communication between groups. The information when transmitted is changed. With the pressure of work and the fast pace of life, not many people are willing to dig deep to find out clearly.
From there, each person is exposed to false information and self-speculates in many directions. Those stories that lack truth and bad emotions spread silently but are deeply rooted in the organization.
There is a real example in my unit. That is the internal financial programs. The regulations of these programs are subject to a number of other regulations. As well as the nature of financial products, there is almost always a change in the limit, interest rate according to the market situation.
Although the borrower is the one who borrows, but the borrower himself is often lazy to read about the regulations above. As well as not everyone fully understands the financial concepts. Leading to when there are fluctuations in the lending process, there will be a rush of anger, unfounded. Leading to unstandardized speeches, affecting the morale of the group.
Here is not to advise people to “eat the tree, fence the tree” regardless of the right or wrong of the organization. But each individual in a collective needs to be willing to find out the source of all events before speaking.
Only then can we become more civilized, create a healthy collective environment. This is the best way to protect the organization you are working in.
3. Speculation within families
I find this situation the most regrettable. The family is the basic unit of society. The impact of the family is huge. The scope of this impact is too far-reaching. The family has a huge impact on the development of children. If the relationship between families in the family is good, it will create a cultural and united clan.
But in fact, I see that there are often conflicts between each family, especially the nature of envy. Many people care about each other in a gossipy way. Not really helping, but just gossiping about the story to make fun.
In general, the overlapping relationship between grandchildren, daughter-in-law and son-in-law in a family/big family can be more headache than in an organization!
Moreover, the reason for this is often due to envy rather than economic reasons. Because I see that not many people in the big family want to do business together, they are afraid that money will make them lose face.
These unfounded speculations are discussed at mealtimes, even at funeral parties. Distorts the spirit of such occasions.
Because of the high level of repetition, tolerating this behavior requires outstanding patience, and I think the best way is to educate the younger generation to avoid repeating the mistakes of their ancestors.
We should try to turn the occasions of funerals, the most important days into opportunities to update the situation of the big family, as a time for the elders to advise and give advice to their grandchildren. It is an opportunity for brothers to discuss and show each other the way of doing business.
In general, I hate this kind of speculation. The family is the root, the blood, if you do not go to each other, then no. Again, you are free to speculate on all sorts of terrible things. The result is that the family itself is in chaos, always affecting other families in the clan!
4. The harm of labeling a baby
I did not originally intend to write about this topic, but I realized that it is just as important, and labeling a child is also another form of speculation. Therefore, this part 4 was born.
Before this article was published, when discussing on the forum, I met a rather interesting question: “Adults often evaluate in the style of this child is slow, the other child is resourceful, quick-witted. What do you think about this?” In that discussion, a member said the following: “To be honest, many times it is out of habit that we forget the consequences of labeling someone. Especially when teaching children to be subtle.”
When you grow up and become aware, I am sure you will encounter many situations like this: Many people, when they only meet or have little contact, quickly judge the person in front of them as XYZ… Or they just met a child and immediately praised that the child will have the talent to become ABC. That is LABELING..
a. Why You Should Not Label People
Labeling is the act of assigning a specific category or identity to a person. This can be done based on a person’s appearance, behavior, or any other characteristic. While labeling can be a helpful way to categorize and understand information, it is important to remember that labels are not always accurate.
There are several reasons why you should not label people. First, people are complex and multifaceted. They have a variety of qualities and characteristics that make them unique individuals. Trying to label someone with a single word or phrase can be very limiting and does not do justice to their full potential.
Second, people change over time. Their experiences, relationships, and beliefs can all shape who they are. A person who is labeled as “shy” in childhood may become more outgoing in adolescence. A person who is labeled as “intelligent” in school may not live up to their full potential in adulthood.
Finally, labels can be harmful. They can lead to discrimination, stereotyping, and prejudice. When people are labeled, they are often treated differently from others. This can have a negative impact on their self-esteem, their relationships, and their opportunities in life.
If you are tempted to label someone, it is important to take a step back and consider the consequences. Labels are not always accurate, and they can be harmful. Instead of labeling people, try to get to know them as individuals. Learn about their experiences, their values, and their dreams. By taking the time to get to know someone, you can avoid making assumptions about them and you can build stronger relationships.
b. Consequences of labeling in children’s education
Children are born as a blank slate. In the early years of life, when consciousness, awareness, and the ability to choose between right and wrong have not yet formed. Then clearly parents and society play a key role in creating a good child.
And as the above section said about the illogical (that is, unpredictable) nature of human growth. Clearly the child will develop through the ups and downs of life. The lessons it learns are different each time, its perspective on life also changes, leading to its reaction to society also changing.
If parents, neighbors or teachers (broader than the education and society) keep relying on baseless, impulsive, petty adults’ speculations to stick a child to a label, then life is too black!
The responsibility of adults is to educate children. If in their minds they default this child is stubborn, spoiled. And they let their emotions control their reason. At that time, good words, good teaching methods will be denied to the child. And in this way, adults have helped to create a bad child according to their limited perspective.
b1. Toxic Parents
There are parents who are not well-educated or have psychological problems, so they often scold their children terribly, swear at them and humiliate them. These people are classified as toxic parents. They make their children lose their self-confidence and lose many opportunities when they are young because at that time they carry a self-conscious mentality influenced by their families.
Even if the child is lucky enough to be labeled as a beautiful label, it also unintentionally creates pressure from the family’s and society’s expectations on the child. And the worst luck is that they will turn to disappointment when the child does not achieve what they expect. At that time, the psychological impact will turn back and weigh on the child.
A difficult child does not mean a grown-up who is sullen and dangerous. He becomes an articulate, communicative and caring business employee for his wife and children.
A schoolgirl who doesn’t like to study or play doesn’t mean that she will later become a mother who doesn’t care about her children or her parents. She learned a lot of lessons and became mature, becoming the economic pillar for her family and siblings. These cases are friends that I have known since high school.
b2. Unfounded tests
Adults often have a trick to test the child, then make judgments about the child’s future. They don’t know that this is a trick, baseless and is affecting the child’s future.
In the Vietnamese 1-year-old child celebration ceremony. After completing the ritual, the parents will set up a table with many objects for the baby to choose from. Many people believe that the baby’s choice will reveal part of the future profession. For example, if the baby picks up the doctor’s stethoscope, he will become a doctor, picking up the pen, he will become a writer…
Now we know it’s nonsense. But it was passed down as a tradition for many generations. It shows the seriousness of the problem.
